Nerve Dating Confessions

"when you really miss someone, the rules tend to fly out the window" - isn't that one of your narratives of how the world works? Break out of that why don't you. Making stupid decisions doesn't prove that you miss someone. Expressing, honestly, your feelings and caring for someone proves that. It's not my responsibility to make myself vulnerable and fall all over myself looking foolish to prove to anyone else that I missed them, especially when the walls that exist weren't put in place by me. Your expectation is that someone tear them down on your behalf? No. Sorry. I don't buy that. I'm old enough to realize, now, that the people who expect me to reach out to prove that I missed them are the same ones who will later tell me to do other bullshit to prove that I love them, and at the end of the day no matter how hard I try I will invariably encounter the same uncertainty the same insecurity again and again and again - the same resistance, masquerading as love. No. Its not about how much I miss someone at all, its about having a mature emotional connection, to stop the self flagellation, to stop trying to prove anything, and to be with someone with whom there is a sense of stability and security, instead of being run ragged with this endless fucking dramatic rollercoaster of emotions. 'I guess you don't really love me, I don't really love you' blah blah blah. Honestly - fuck off OP. It doesn't matter how much I might miss someone, I don't miss being on that ride. You don't recognize the difference between romance and thrill seeking, which is an extremely immature and child like narrative for love. Break your own rules please, define yourself, for yourself. I'm comfortable with my capacity for defining myself for myself, and I have rules that I made for myself at great expense to keep myself safe from selfish children acting out in the adult world. Other people aren't here just to validate your needs. This person is never going to call you.

Geez @op...really? I kind of agree with some of what you're saying, but wow- what a ridiculous opine