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February 13, 12:40AM I've never lived with a boyfriend--I've always had my own place to retreat to, even if we spent most of our nights together. Part of me wants to cohabitate with you and make dinner together and buy artwork for our place and never spend the night alone, and part of me is terrified of taking that step. I love you, but I worry that our love will become stale when we spend every free moment together, even though that's all I want right now. #imconfused CAN RELATE (5) CAN'T RELATE (0) FLAG FOR ABUSE
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What if we break up? That seems so messy trying to divide our possessions back up. Or even more importantly, what does moving in together mean for our relationship? I'm nor ready for any of this.

OP commented on Feb 13 13 at 12:43 am FLAG FOR ABUSE

of course. how could it not become stale? You should buy apartments on the same floor. And then you can cohabit all you want, but still retreat to your own space

of commented on Feb 13 13 at 1:40 am FLAG FOR ABUSE

Or you could start by dialing back the anticipatory fear. It's good to consider this stuff, but it sounds like you are assuming the worst. Living together does mean spending more time together, but it certainly does not mean sacrificing "every free moment" without doing things on your own, and continuing to pursue things you are interested in, going out solo with friends, etc. Balance!

srs commented on Feb 13 13 at 2:35 am FLAG FOR ABUSE

Would you be moving in together as a test drive/movement for marriage? Either way is ok, but make sure everyone is on the same page. Also, inertia will set in and harder to break free of the relationship should the connection dissolve.

rm commented on Feb 13 13 at 10:32 am FLAG FOR ABUSE

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