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February 12, 7:30PM I am a white woman who had unprotected sex with an ostensibly straight, educated black man the day before I got back together with my boyfriend. I told my boyfriend about it and he and I had sex anyways. I can't stop worrying about HIV. I wish I could get tested now, but I know it takes about three months for the virus to show up in test results. Would appreciate some comfort. CAN RELATE (0) CAN'T RELATE (8) FLAG FOR ABUSE
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um why the fuck you have to bring race into it like do you for real think there are no white guys with HIV/AIDS and is the last time you got facts about HIV/AIDS from mid90s trash tv?

ka commented on Feb 12 13 at 7:35 pm FLAG FOR ABUSE

Unfortunately, there is a summary of the facts on http://www.cdc.gov/hiv/topics/aa/ which support the OP's concern. It nevertheless is possible that the OP is a troll.

FCT commented on Feb 12 13 at 7:43 pm FLAG FOR ABUSE

It doesn't sound like OP is a troll, since she tries to rationalize away her racism with the whole 'straight, educated' bit. However OP is clearly a selfish and self centred cunt, since she fucks a couple of dudes in short order, oblivious to her (now) boyfriends feelings and callously unconcerned about his safety, and then has the audacity to ask other people for empathy and comfort. Bitch - it sounds like you're getting 'comforted' a bit too much... time to grow up and deal with it. Deal with the impact of your choices! If you keep living in a fantasy land, running around and hurting other people then you're going to get hurt, and I don't fucking care if that's scary. You've wrapped your guilt with this fear, and made it all about you, and now you're trying to find people who will help you to justify it all away.

@op commented on Feb 12 13 at 7:55 pm FLAG FOR ABUSE

Comfort for what, exactly? Your choices, your consequences. Deal with it.

/// commented on Feb 12 13 at 8:35 pm FLAG FOR ABUSE

I feel bad for both men.

wo commented on Feb 12 13 at 9:07 pm FLAG FOR ABUSE

It's not racist to be supported by evidence. Fact of the matter is african americans make up almost as many new HIV infections as do MSM gays. The blood bank refuses MSM blood because it's too risky, and they don't refuse AA blood because it'd be a political shitstorm but if they're being consistent they should. OP had, whether you want to admit it or not, unprotected sex with a member of a risky population.

hk commented on Feb 12 13 at 9:10 pm FLAG FOR ABUSE

She wouldn't be sleeping with him if she was racist. African Americans are a high risk group according to facts. Is it homophobic if a girl sleeps with a bisexual and she has the same concern? No.

vl commented on Feb 12 13 at 10:36 pm FLAG FOR ABUSE

I dont see the need to mention who was what race

Dld commented on Feb 12 13 at 11:26 pm FLAG FOR ABUSE

the stats support that they are GHETTO blacks in poverty who have HIV. If the OP had sex with a thug in D.C slums, then yes, she should be worried. OP is a troll, however, and probably the same person as FCT

ww commented on Feb 12 13 at 11:52 pm FLAG FOR ABUSE

member of a risky population? high risk group? Geez, stop being such fucking racists and recognize that the OP should be concerned because she chose to have unprotected sex, not because it was with a Black guy. wtf.....

huh commented on Feb 13 13 at 12:59 am FLAG FOR ABUSE

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