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February 11, 4:32PM I can't break up with you because everyone says we're a perfect couple and I know you would hate me. CAN RELATE (6) CAN'T RELATE (6) FLAG FOR ABUSE
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Why does everyone say this and what is the problem? Are both of you good actors?

Per commented on Feb 11 13 at 5:24 pm FLAG FOR ABUSE

Fer chrissakes, grow up! "everyone" is not in charge of your life, you are! Make your decisions accordingly.

srs commented on Feb 12 13 at 3:22 am FLAG FOR ABUSE

We've been together 4 years, I think at this point its just force of habit. And I'm really working on doing things for myself instead of trying to please other people.

han commented on Feb 12 13 at 12:06 pm FLAG FOR ABUSE

OP, that's good news, I hope you are getting some assistants from professionals, etc. If you get to the basic assumption about why you are doing that, the behavior will disappear on it's own over time. The more insight you gain, the faster the changes are likely to be. Phrases like, "If I don't do something to please them, then they won't love me any more (or will love me more), are often the driving forces behind stuff like this. Look up Enneagram personality type Two, it may sound familiar.

srs commented on Feb 12 13 at 3:25 pm FLAG FOR ABUSE

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