Nerve Dating Confessions

I've responded to ads like this on Craigslist. And when I was a phone fantasy operator- I had a guy who'd call and just talk about his issues.

I was also going to suggest finding a low pressure email/penpal on craigslist. There are many women who would be happy to hear your troubles and tell their own. I have a strong friendship started from answering a craigslist "strictly platonic" ad. Even if you are not in the right place to date, there is no reason not to make friendships. I am so sorry about your sister. I lost a family member recently, I know how horrible it is. Good luck.

Both of you, thanks for responding. I really appreciate you reaching out. So I would do this on strictly platonic? ... did you ever meet this person? The one thing I am concerned about is getting involved on an on-line only situation. Have also thought about a bereavement group so might also go in that direction.

I was not looking to meet up originally, I just wanted a voice in the darkness to talk to. So, I've not met him yet, but now after all this time, my mind has changed and I will meet him... I don't know what I would have done if we hadn't become friends, I was in a very sad place. I also googled the crap out him once the anonymity started to wear away! There is no catfishing going on. He is who he says he is and has been candid with me. He would have met long ago, I was the one that has held out because of my own fears. Strictly platonic would probably be your best bet if you are going to try CL. You can make it clear from the beginning, that you would want to meet up for coffee and pursue a "real" friendship outside of the internet eventually. The bereavement group is probably the smarter, braver and healthier option though. CL can be wasteland, with very little kindness. I might have just been very lucky to have made a real connection there. I am also at a place where dating feels wrong right now. I feel out of step with the rest of the world because of it. Dating seems so superficial, like people trying each other on for size and tossing each other away for little reason. I needed to believe I could still make meaningful, intimate connections with somebody, that weren't based sex alone. I needed a real friend, I hope you can find that too, op.

I found these guys on dating/romance m4w (whatever they are calling it now.) Like (...), I found someone when was in a hour of need. I have only scoped CL in the loneliest of times. And when there's a post that says "I just need to talk" from a normal man with feelings amongst all the "420 oral $50 tonight" from creeper pigs, that stands out and you will get a response. If you express interest in them and let them speak too, and don't come off mentally ill, it might end up in photo exchanges and a date, in time. I never let it get that far because I knew they needed someone stronger than I was then, but I gave them a night of conversation with an attractive girl.