Nerve Dating Confessions
February 9, 7:38PM Back again in the comfort zone of "I love him, but I'm not in love with him." Grew up with practically nothing but emotional abuse, fell in love with a married man against my will, was coldly shot down by him, will probably never dare to fall in love again. CAN RELATE (3) CAN'T RELATE (2) FLAG FOR ABUSE
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I don't believe in this love him but not in love with him differentiation and have never understood what it meant. But despite your childhood, you will find love again if you want to.

RC commented on Feb 9 13 at 7:45 pm FLAG FOR ABUSE

Generally, different kinds of love are reserved for different kinds of relationships. Love is not "all or nothing," because boundaries are not "all or nothing," unless you have an unhealthy sense of boundaries like "I love all people equally" (you can't/shouldn't because it's not safe to be vulnerable with people you can't trust) or "The only person I will ever let through my mile-thick wall of reinforced concrete is the One Person I Will Ever Love In My Whole Life and the rest of you can all just fuck off."

op commented on Feb 9 13 at 7:55 pm FLAG FOR ABUSE

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