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February 5, 4:21PM Okay, I am so bad at this stuff because I am awkward and weird so I need some advice. I texted this girl "do you want to go get dinner sometime" and she said sorry I just got out of a long term relationship, but we could get a drink sometime. Now I have no idea if that means a drink as friends or what? How do I interpret that? To make things worse I then texted her, well I think you are really cute and fun. Is that bad? What's going on? What even is flirting? CAN RELATE (0) CAN'T RELATE (0) FLAG FOR ABUSE
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I'd say she isn't interested. Dinner was too serious for her, but she didn't want to turn you down and hurt your feelings so she offered drinks. Don't pursue her - if for no other reason, she can't be honest about her feelings.

Des commented on Feb 5 13 at 4:41 pm FLAG FOR ABUSE

She's not willing to think of you romantically. She may or may not want to be your friend, she might only be interested in meeting a new person in a low key/no key atmosphere for the sake of distracting herself while she's hurt. She may or may not be willing to see what's there, in case she ever in the future decided she might like you enough to give a relationship a shot. She also may or may not be above sleeping with you, if she's feeling particularily hurt and vulnerable, she finds you attractive and you both get drunk. If she did that, though, she would probably avoid you afterward.

@op commented on Feb 5 13 at 4:53 pm FLAG FOR ABUSE

So, essentially there are no good outcomes. Nice.

op commented on Feb 5 13 at 4:58 pm FLAG FOR ABUSE

Move on, nothing good can come out of this unless you are okay with just being friends. Someone will always make time for you if they are interested, so this strikes me as her not being interested romantically.

KE commented on Feb 5 13 at 5:21 pm FLAG FOR ABUSE

I mean I am okay with just having sex I guess but I don't know how to say that without sounding awful.

op commented on Feb 5 13 at 5:30 pm FLAG FOR ABUSE

She's blowing you off. That means no sex. Move on.

tg commented on Feb 5 13 at 6:23 pm FLAG FOR ABUSE

Okay, thanks guys!

op commented on Feb 5 13 at 6:26 pm FLAG FOR ABUSE

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