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February 5, 11:58AM Question for men. Assuming the woman was not grossly fat or smelled like a barn, have you ever turned down sex outside of a committed relationship? What was your reason? CAN RELATE (0) CAN'T RELATE (0) FLAG FOR ABUSE
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because I didn't want to lose my friend (a girl) and I knew we'd never work out as a couple, and she can't handle FWB's

sg commented on Feb 5 13 at 12:04 pm FLAG FOR ABUSE

Yes. In one case I thought this very attractive nurse was borderline crazy (fatal attraction kind of crazy).

MGW commented on Feb 5 13 at 12:24 pm FLAG FOR ABUSE

She was more interested in me than I was in her and I take sleeping with someone seriously. So decided it was better not to to it.

Le commented on Feb 5 13 at 12:32 pm FLAG FOR ABUSE

I have done so repeatedly, with multiple women. Had nothing to do with the looks of the woman. Was that I was tired of casual sex, and when that happens, I get turned off the girl. Nothing personal, they can be great and attractive--I just don't want sex with someone with whom I'm not in a relationship, after a while.

JS commented on Feb 5 13 at 12:34 pm FLAG FOR ABUSE

Once I did because I wanted a relationship and she just wanted sex, and it was at a time in my life where I was second guessing myself more than I should have - the situation seemed great, and perfect, within the context of casual fun with mutual attraction and few expectations, and I guess I didn't trust those feelings. I guess I had expectations and they threw me for a loop.

@op commented on Feb 5 13 at 12:40 pm FLAG FOR ABUSE

Ummm - YEAH - Multiple reasons, didn't want a one night stand, she came on way too strong, was a buddy's gf, just wasn't my type, she was a close friend and I didn't want to fuck up the friendship, was early in the evening and I thought I could do better, etc., etc., etc.

smt commented on Feb 5 13 at 1:05 pm FLAG FOR ABUSE

I've done it twice, unfortunately after going home with both of them. Just wasn't feeling it by the time I sobered up. Casual sex is depressing.

ds commented on Feb 5 13 at 3:31 pm FLAG FOR ABUSE

I've done it loads of times. Some because of my own insecurities at the time. Sometimes I just didn't like her, found her annoying. Maybe I wasn't attracted to her. Some I wish I hadn't turned down in retrospect

yes commented on Feb 5 13 at 4:27 pm FLAG FOR ABUSE

But... you guys are all saying that in most cases, you would NOT turn down an opportunity to cheat? Lately my motto has been "sexual attention is meaningless." This thread seems to support that statement. Now I guess I should add "commitment is meaningless, too."

ick commented on Feb 5 13 at 7:19 pm FLAG FOR ABUSE

@ick The question isn't about cheating, nor are the answers. Read again, more carefully.

@Ic commented on Feb 5 13 at 9:44 pm FLAG FOR ABUSE

Mmmm many times. Sometimes I was insecure, sometimes I'm tired, sometimes I just don't want another meaningless notch on the meaningless pole.

LK commented on Feb 6 13 at 12:58 am FLAG FOR ABUSE

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