Nerve Dating Confessions

She probably suspects she has a mild yeast infection.

Sometimes it's too much stimulation and you need to stop or oral sex isn't their thing. It could be a lot of reasons, so I would ask. Always ask.

well what happened after that? You might be awful at it, or shes embarrased or worries that you are not into it. Make some enjoyment noises

Sometimes you're in the mood for head, sometimes you're not. Some people don't climax from oral and it's strictly foreplay. Just follow the cue and don't take it personally. Maybe another time you can ask her before you start fooling around again that you'd like to make her come via oral and to tell you how she likes it. Good sex isn't a multiple choice guessing game- it's good communication.

All good comments thanks..... no I think I'm pretty good at it (don't we all) but recently a girl told me that she really did want me to just take charge but felt that she didn't believe I enjoyed it as much as I did.... but something about control really turns me on

If we're enjoying it, the last thing on our mind is if you like it and it turns you on. Another possibility, and it sounds like what you mentioned could be such a case, is she's shy about having someone between her legs. She is obsessed with reading your mind so of course she's not enjoying it. She's thinking, omg he thinks it's not pretty or that it tastes funny! Even more of a reason for you not to take it personally, but ALWAYS tell her it's beautiful and it tastes divine.

Thanks again. My plan is to restrain her next time (she's into it) and just take over

Thanks again. My plan is to restrain her next time (she's into it) and just take over

It's normally (98% of cases) because the person eating her doesn't know what he is doing. And it's usually a he, I don't hear lesbians say the same thing.

I will stop a guy from going down on me if I have reason to think its not clean ie spotting or I need a bikini wax - if he's already started but I've not come its probably because he's terrible at it or I know I'm just not going to come this time. If I have come then I stop him bc I'm too sensitive or because its definitely time to fuck. Bonus round, sometimes it's good and I stop him because I want to come with him inside me instead. Real answer - ask her - obviously there are many different possibilities.

It's effing weird having a person you barely know down there, until you trust that they're not going to bite you

Great comments....thanks everyone...

Eh, I just don't like getting oral.

Me either. 20 yrs of sex with 30 some men, 3 have gotten me off. And they all say they love it and are great at it. I'm used to vibrators and my own little fingers. Big man fingers and tongues don't even really feel good. The women that have gone down on me couldn't finish me off, either. @OP- make sure you get her permission before restraining her! Tying her up doesn't mean she's going to come, either

The person GETTING the head is in the control position as much as, if not more than, the one giving it. Perhaps she'd prefer to blindfold and restrain YOU and have you down on your knees licking her.

Thanks again.... it is interesting though... some women cum so easily and I know exactly what I'm doing, others....a mystery.... but a good mystery