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February 2, 8:39PM I am despicable. I fucked an innocent sweet boy and didnt tell him I have HSV. We used condoms and I take Valtrex every day but still....I'm no better than the piece of shit who destroyed my life with this shitty stigma. (Although he begged, pleaded and cajoled me into not using a condom). CAN RELATE (4) CAN'T RELATE (9) FLAG FOR ABUSE
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An innocent sweet boy wouldn't have begged, pleaded, and cajoled you into not using a condom, not that condoms protect that much against HSV.

EM commented on Feb 2 13 at 9:06 pm FLAG FOR ABUSE

Were you having an outbreak? What are the chances of actually transmitting the disease if you're using condoms and viral suppressant therapy. Strikes me you're being hard on yourself but others might disagree.

aos commented on Feb 2 13 at 9:08 pm FLAG FOR ABUSE

What kind of dumb fucking comments are these??? You wouldn't shrug if someone with HSV fucked you raw, even if you begged for it. You'd be pissed they didn't allow you to make an informed decision whether with or without a condom. OP is a shitty fucking person for doing this and I hope she tells the boy she slept with before he shares his newly contracted herpes with someone else or at least allows him to take a test - ffs, be above the asshole who gave it to you.

uhm commented on Feb 2 13 at 9:20 pm FLAG FOR ABUSE

the innocent sweetheart wasnt the begger and cajoler, the asshole who gave it to me was.

op commented on Feb 2 13 at 9:33 pm FLAG FOR ABUSE

why did you do it? seems like you knew it was a terrible thing to do and still did it. only right thing you can do now is to tell him and deal with the consequences. i don't know for sure (not a doctor) but hopefully you didnt give anything to him (if you didnt have an outbreak at the time) but at least if he knows he was (potentially) exposed he can get tested (and yes i know tests arent conclusive for herpes).

ono commented on Feb 2 13 at 10:04 pm FLAG FOR ABUSE

Herpes can be spread even with the use of condoms. If you were shedding the virus on your mons pubis, then you can spread it to your partner. You don't necessarily have to be having an outbreak to be shedding the virus. Let the boy know so he can get tested. God forbid he did get it and if he passes it to his next partner unknowingly, he will have to not only deal with having herpes, but also with the guilt of spreading it. Learn from this and let your future partners know.

bad commented on Feb 2 13 at 11:39 pm FLAG FOR ABUSE

Chill out!! Chances of pervading while on suppression,w condoms is very very low

Doc commented on Feb 3 13 at 12:19 am FLAG FOR ABUSE

Your conscience knows you are in the wrong. Make amends. Tell the truth.

@op commented on Feb 3 13 at 1:40 am FLAG FOR ABUSE

Yeah, she should have told him, but really, the chance of him getting it is like 1%. It's so unlikely, it's really not a big deal.

jp commented on Feb 3 13 at 1:54 am FLAG FOR ABUSE

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