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February 1, 5:02AM I asked my boyfriend to be rough to me in bed, so he was, and I liked it. But last night, for the first time, he scared me. The lights were off, I couldn't see him, and he hit me really hard. I thought my face was going to bruise. I didn't even dare to say stop. CAN RELATE (0) CAN'T RELATE (1) FLAG FOR ABUSE
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You need to say this to him ASAP and if he hurts you and you've requested rough play you tell him where to stop. Create a safe word and tell him your limits. Then tell him he frightened you and really did hurt you. If he can't amend his behavior for these simple requests then you need to leave before scary things keep happening.

bil commented on Feb 1 13 at 6:21 am FLAG FOR ABUSE

I've always wanted to ask my bf to be more rough in bed, but this is exactly what I'm afraid of, that he'll end up taking it too far and I won't feel safe around him anymore.

am commented on Feb 1 13 at 7:35 am FLAG FOR ABUSE

I asked mine to be rough with me but he's so terrified of hurting me he never succeeds in being rough. Your situation sounds unacceptable, you need to speak up.

mop commented on Feb 1 13 at 9:23 am FLAG FOR ABUSE

I am probably never rough enough for a girl when she asks, because I am fearful of hurting her. And that is the last thing I want to do. Have a talk with your bf about what he did and our limits going forward. It is all about your safety.

erc commented on Feb 1 13 at 9:41 am FLAG FOR ABUSE

I can't imagine most guys would interpret being rough in bed with actually striking their partner. When a girl asks me to be rough, I do sexy things in a rough way, but hitting someone isn't a part of typical sex to begin with.

AAA commented on Feb 1 13 at 7:34 pm FLAG FOR ABUSE

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