Nerve Dating Confessions

Me too. My ex wife cheated on me, and after 15 yrs, I honestly never thought she was that person. We had a good sex life, and a solid marriage, so it came out of the blue. So now I am wondering how I will ever trust again.

Why????? The fact is it’s probably going to happen so get over it.

Be realistic, as @st says it is going to happen. The big deals are: how often, and with what consequences. So @fml you should never "trust" unconditionally. Trust is always partial or else it is unrealistic, if you don't read the stats on confessed cheating. Again the big deal is frequency and consequences. Unfortunately the consequences of women cheating are usually much bigger for men than the consequences of men cheating for women, as @fml is probably discovering, even if he was lucky that it took as long as 15 years.

This shit happens, so get over the fear and plan how you'd handle it instead. All it really means is that your relationship is over, which is really not a bad thing if there's cheating involved.

So work on keeping the relationship strong instead of looking over your shoulder for the other person. A good relationship takes constant TLC to make it work. Never take your partner for granted. Always be respectful. Work like hell to keep the relationship strong - and work hard at it. No guarantees that this will work, but if you don't do this then the guarantee is that the relationship will fail and be open for cheating