Nerve Dating Confessions

And FYI, we are both in our younger 30's, which I am hoping decreases the chances she is using me to get a good grade. Who knows though, we shall see.

I'm in that situation but I know all 4 people I'm helping are taken. Still feels like a small victory if not all communication is built upon school work.

If you ever offer to help a woman she'll never think: "oh, I guess he likes me". She thinks: "oh, he's a nice guy who gives out free stuff. I'm going to take what I need since clearly he doesn't mind giving it without anything in return, maybe I can even use him for more stuff". You don't sound smart, OP... particularily for not having figured this out 5 years ago. Look at LK - he's been burdened with a full 4 leeches digging into him and sucking out his energy and time, and they've even made it clear they're taken. Not seeing someone, mind you; taken. Which means "don't try anything, I'm only here to pass and after this I'm going to forget about you, unless there is something else I need". Which puts him in the position of being forced to give more, once his social identity and emotional fulfilment gets too closely associated with these phony friends. If you come off as a fake, and a pushover, who has to pay for people to spend time with him, that's exactly what you'll be relegated to forever.

calm the fuck down, "@op" [which is a stupid way to reference yourself, use your own initials next time]. OP... seems she likes you. texting back-n-forth all day is not required to make a tutoring appointment. Remember, your offer to tutor was not conditional upon her digging you; don't be a dick if she doesn't fall in love with you, and you can rescind your offer at any time without drama. Be careful not to fall into a friend zone/tutor zone.

If I liked a guy I would never let him tutor me for fear of him discovering how fucking math-illiterate I am.

I do not believe she is leading me on just for the tutoring because a) we are both mature adults who share a mutual friend, b) if all she wanted was tutoring then she would have ended our conversation as soon as she had my commitment to helping her, which was early in the day (and at the end of the evening she stated she enjoyed our conversation). I am fully prepared for to not be in to me, and that's okay. After a 10 yr relationship, I am trying to get back into this dating thing, and I don't exactly have the best game in the world. So striking up a conversation and giving a girl my number is a small victory for me. And I honestly don't mind helping her. She is a cool chick, and she gives her time to a kids charity, so the least I can do is help her. And I had a lot of support and various types of help when I was going thru college (not all of which ended up with me sleeping with that person). So if she is not in to me, it's cool. Baby steps for me.

I'd be wary about this too. Maybe op is right in that there is potentially something more there but having been burned one too many times by over eager texters, I'd go into it with little to no expectations. Good luck.