Nerve Dating Confessions

Best friend breakup. We were friends for years, totally enmeshed lives. However she took offense when I would hang out with other people, and it came to a head, when I didn't invite her to the surprise birthday party SOMEONE ELSE threw for me. Walking away was difficult. Got through it with alot of introspection and help from new friends. In retrospect, I probably should have sought counseling, but I'm great now. I wish her no ill will.

A few years ago around this time, I had a best friend breakup with all three of my best friends. My one friend lied about being raped and the other two took her side. I threw myself into my work, but wish I had tried harder to make new friends.

Came home from a business trip to find out I wasn't married anymore. Hurt like all hell, after a couple of years I put it behind me. Eventually I came to realize that it was the best thing that ever happened to me.

It's hard after a certain age. It did suck when people took sides but I tried not to get caught up in that. I couldn't look to others to validate my feelings.

sister went to a mental hospital, parents and the rest of the family blamed me for always being the "agressive" sibling. finally realized there was no one to blame though. almost destroyed me, it took me a long time to enjoy family life again.

Went from happily married and "having" a child to my wife admitting to an affair, and telling me she is doing whatever she wants and she doesn't care who it hurts all in about a months time. All the while my dad had surgery and the stress caused me to have some health problems. I was fortunate to get counseling free at work (or else I am not sure I would have pursed it on my own), and she was amazing for me. I went and got acupuncture once a month. I had a friend that I poured all my troubles onto. And I had friends that I didn't open up to but they new I was hurting and did all they could to keep me busy. All the support I had was what helped me get thru it all.

The toughest time was coping with the death of a loved one, and how I got through it, quite honestly, was being in the pain. Feeling the pain. Not running from it or suppressing it. I cried enough to fill the Great Lakes, I talked about the person a lot. It took a long time to accept. Death is the opposite of everything we know. But definitely being with the pain is important. It has to be done. Whatever you're dealing with, I wish you the best.