Nerve Dating Confessions

I'm hurt because I've made all these sacrifices, done my best, and consistently done all these good things for people, and I've still gotten a lot of bullshit in return! It's like it's never enough.

OP I feel like I could have written this exact post a year ago. My bf at the time loved me but hated himself, and no amount of my loving him could convince him that he was a good person, worthy of love, etc. He pushed me away and I was devastated, because a huge part of my life had become all about building him up and trying to make him see the light. At some pint I realized that he pushed me away because he was trying to save me from him.

I feel a sense of relief at knowing that there's someone else out there who has gone through a similar situation @MI. I just feel so boxed in right now. I don't know what to do next. All of my love, energy, kindness hasn't been enough to help. It's the most frustrating feeling in the world. Most of all, my heart just breaks for him because he's his own worst enemy. He sabotages himself, he closes himself off from life. I feel so helpless.

op, I used to be like your person - I'm sorry, but even your most herculean efforts, will make a 10% difference at best. You can't help someone who doesn't even want to help themselves, shit sometimes you can't help them even if they're begging for it. During my depression, I actively sought help, but depression is a deep lonely pit that a galaxy out of reach from any other soul - ir's your own struggle, in my experience. And if he's like me, yeah, he's pushing you away to save you from him. Do yourself a favour and leave - find yourself again. Have a life. Both of you will be proud of you. Take care of yourself first - the world doesn't need two broken souls for the price of one.