Nerve Dating Confessions

A bit of advice. It's obvious to us when a guy just wants to talk to a girl, any girl will do, as a self esteem exercise. When out with friends, conversation in groups flows and bounces around. When a girl says something that makes her particularly interesting to you, try to engage her as if she was another guy you met out with your friends. We are human beings who, like you, want to be found interesting to other human beings. Exploit that human need (it's very basic Dale Carnegie HTWFAIP), put the focus on them and you won't even be thinking about yourself. The byproduct of this is that they will find you fascinating for being curious about them!

Thanks for the advice. I don't believe there will be available girls as part of the group I am going out with. So I am referring more to approaching somebody new (i.e. a stranger) who I may find interesting.

Good luck op.

the feeling of wussing out is worse than any rejection that could happen. Just talk to them with no agenda. You're not looking for a date, you're just talking to someone who happens to be standing near you. You're not nervous to talk to women you're not attracted to. So just do it.

The approach is pretty simple. "Can I buy you a drink?" usually works on me. You can take it from there.

As a female I always try to be nice to guys who approach me. That has got to be hard sometimes. Good luck and just enjoy yourself.

xx, I appreciate a girl like you. Yes it is hard, especially when your confidence/self esteem is not the greatest.

And, I am not smooth, don't talk a good game, am not particularly charasmatic, so that makes it even tougher.

The desire to become a better version of yourself is a pretty good start. Do not focus on what you don't have so much in terms of charisma and what not. You are self aware and that says something these days. Keep trying to become the best version of yourself and that drive will make you attractive.