Nerve Dating Confessions

Didn't you just ask two days ago? Birth control and condoms are both 99.9% effective when used properly. How else would you like it said?

asked what two days ago? this is a public forum, people must as the same questions all the time. and I mean how effective are condom alone?

Please, OP, if you have enough sense to consider the issue, than you might have enough sense to look to a reliable source, such as Planned Parenthood, the Mayo Clinic site, or your local sexual health provider. Google is your friend. So is Yahoo. You'll have your answer in less time than it takes you to come back here to read the replies to your post. You may find that once you are more knowledgable, that you'll be less terrified. Sex and terror are not a good combination! Get busy and learn something so you can get busy and have fun! And don't be hard on yourself for being a virgin. Measure in your own time, not some arbitrary notion of when you "should."

...again, 99.9% effective WHEN USED PROPERLY hell, maybe it's 99.8% when used properly... you can find the information with a quick google search or reading the back of a condom box. It's not classified information. You seem really ignorant on the topic of sex. Just because you know people who've blown a bunch of guys, or you've heard stories about this one girl who got fucked by two dudes does not make you informed about sex and clearly NOT informed about sex education - these are the basics and the information is really easy to seek out. Wait to have sex until you're not riddled with fear, anyway.

Stop asking strangers here. Google Planned Parenthood, call and ask a professional. This information is all online, too, but double barrier method is what they're going to tell you: condoms + something else, like the Pill or IUD.

There really is no need to berate the poor girl. Yes, google it, planned parenthood, there are many resources out there, most of which will confirm what has been said here. Maybe she has, maybe she came here for a little support, a calming voice, affirmation from some experienced individuals. She is certainly not the first person to be nervous/worried about their first time.

I don't understand why everyone is attacking me here. I have checked out Planned Parenthood, Google, and Yahoo! Answers FYI. So yes, I am nervous, I'm not going to deny that. but there's no need to respond rudely, YOU ALL were virgins at one point in your lives, so hear me out. that's all.

@op-drown out all the noise here. Nothing is 100% safe, but the Bottom line, pill/iud and condoms and you will be fine. Educate yourself about how to use it all properly. And then enjoy it. There is nothing to be ashamed about being a virgin at 20. And there is nothing wrong with being nervous about your first time. So just take the necessary precautions and relax and enjoy yourself. Good luck.

Look it's honestly not such a big deal. Use a condom, use the pill (if you insist) get the guy to pull out while wearing a condom, and that's pretty foolproof. And even if you do go get pregnant in some outrageous tiny fraction of freak accident, you can go buy "plan b" 72 hours after!!!!! Google it. Foolproof. Good luck and enjoy

Fear only comes from ignorance. If you feel like you're too ignorant to be having sex, then please, don't. As a virgin, I took sex ed like everyone else. Paranoia is going to keep you from enjoying the experience. Get birth control, have sex, no need to freak out.

Lies. I was never a virgin.:)

Look, having sex carries with it the small chance of pregnancy and/or STD's. Actions have consequences. If you aren't emotionally prepared for the potential consequences, you aren't ready for sexual intercourse. Simple as that. And please, as @sex said, decide for yourself when you are prepared to lose your virginity. Letting the arbitrary notions of pop culture or your peer group decide for you is ridiculous.

if my fear of getting pregnant is keeping me from having sex, I don't think I'll ever be ready, that's the thing. But I do want to have sex

Honey if you're fearful about that, you'll always be fearful, with or without protection. -Been there, done that- Really, you need to have a serious talk about this with your ob-gyn, or visit one if you never have. Still, you should be more concerned about STD's and Infections than pregnancy. If your potential partner isn't a virgin, have him get tested. Sex is super fun, but it's a serious thing. Visit Laci Green channel in youtube, and please visit a doctor too!

my bf is a virgin, that's why I'm worrying about getting pregnant! Am I the only one who's had these thoughts/fears?

Do you think your boyfriends virgin sperm is more potent or something? If he's wearing a condom and you're using an alternate form of BC then you have the same odds and experienced sex partners. If he's wearing a condom and you're NOT on alternate form of BC then you'll be fine then too. If your virgin boyfriend doesn't know how to put on a condom he should be doing his own research on how to wear one properly. To answer your question, no, I never feared getting pregnant when I was a virgin because he used a condom and I was on the pill and I was educated enough about sex to know that I was safe and if I wasn't, I knew what to expect and had a doctor if I needed to see one or ask questions. I'm 10 years older and I still don't want to get pregnant but THEMS THE ODDS if you want to have sex.