Nerve Dating Confessions

I feel like I wrote this word for word. I am attracted to intelligence, but I feel so unintelligent around him. He's knowledgeable about so much.

You seem articulate and bright enough.

I consider my self to be pretty intelligent, and I find myself to be attracted to "smarter" women, those with which I can hold an intelligent conversations with when the time comes. It's not about knowing history or book smarts, it's about being confident and being able to speak intelligently. My ex wife and I had different educational backgrounds, me math/science, her English/liberal arts. She had know idea about what I was talking about with my job, but we could still hold an intelligent conversation. I say don't worry about what you don't know, just be yourself and be confident in yourself. Don't put yourself down. If who you are is not good enough for him, then you don't need him. I am sure you are smart enough, don't fret it. Good luck.

She had "no" idea. Perhaps you should work on your writing, or make sure you "know" the difference between "no" and "know" usage in a sentence. That is, if you consider yourself to be "pretty intelligent".

There's no need to be an asshole @cjp if that's all you had to add then you didn't need to say anything. @erc I was an arts major myself and he is a biologist - his brain just works differently than mine does. I can cook a meal 10x better on the fly but that doesn't translate into intelligence. I'd like to think that we can handle stimulating topics but he always outdoes me with facts that I've long tossed from my brain or read in an article but can't nail exactly when trying to recall them. It makes me feel pretty dumb. I've never trusted my intelligence to be quite honest and I wish I could but when dating someone like this I feel less confident. I will work on it.

cjp-A). I am typing on a smart phone, so grammar is not a high priority for me. B). I do KNOW the difference between know and no, and there, their, and they're, and to, too, and two for that matter. C). If you read the whole thing, you would have noticed I said my background is math/science based, so I am willing to admit that I rely on spell check and auto correct and all that. D). It is not me being cocky, but I do consider my intelligence to be one if my strengths (I have a bachelors and masters degree in what news week just rated the #1 most difficult field to get a degree in, and graduated top 5 both times, and I have done pretty well for myself after college as well) all the while I am not afraid to admit that there is a lot i don't know and that I have plenty of other flaws. E). Instead if combing thru (yea, I abbreviated through, is that ok, or shall I say okay, with you) my post to find a grammar mistake, why don't you offer the op some constructive advice. D) There is probably some grammar mistakes in this post as well. And I really don't give a crap.

@op-that is pretty much how we were, we thought differently. Things I found important to remember she didn't (and she too was a ten times better cook than I was). And when I would ramble on about something technical she would give me a blank stare and tell me that she didn't really understand but that it sounded cool , and that worked for us. And I leaned on her for all my English/spell checking needs. You don't have to know or understand all the facts that he throws out to be smart. Don't let that make you feel dumb. Just be an active part of the conversation. Smarts come in many different forms. Let your strengths compliment his weaknesses and vice versa. An don't let him talk down to you. If he does, then either communicate that to him, or get rid of him.

@cjp. I'm a math/science geek myself and, in spite of that, found erc's writing distracting. BUT, if you read his post, he had a good message for the op. Perhaps the content is more important than the writing style... I freely admit that this is my opinion and that yours may differ.

@pop- I sort of feel like that is a back handed compliment :). I am not writer, I will freely admit that, but I am typing on a smart phone and this is a dating blog were most of the conversation centers along the lines of how great anal sex is or how somebody is cheating on there spouse. So writing style and proper grammar is not of the upmost concern to me.