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January 16, 10:28PM What do you do when you want someone badly but know if you "give in" all kinds of terrible things will happen? CAN RELATE (4) CAN'T RELATE (0) FLAG FOR ABUSE
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What kinds of terrible things? Like drama? Would telling the person you want badly what your fears are help, providing they can handle sex like an adult?

@op commented on Jan 16 13 at 10:47 pm FLAG FOR ABUSE

If you think that drama = terrible things than its clear you don't have the emotional energy or maturity to deal with the situation. It will therefore only compound whatever problems there are. Terrible things will be a self fulfilling prophecy and you'll always feel like you're 'giving in', rather than making a conscious choice. As it stands your sense of control is dependent upon preventing those things from happening, and there is therefore no way for you to suddenly become confident that you can deal with the issues, or navigate the situations that come up. You'll then blame yourself for being a masochist, and it will only undermine your confidence in yourself to deal with such things further...

@op commented on Jan 16 13 at 11:15 pm FLAG FOR ABUSE

Fortune favors the bold. Say the magic words ("fuck it!"), and then punch that big, red doomsday button as hard as you can.

@op commented on Jan 16 13 at 11:26 pm FLAG FOR ABUSE

I love the worrywart extreme and the balls out extreme in the responses. The only way to rid oneself of temptation is to yield to it, so says oscar. Just cover your bases and don't get caught or regret it.

ha commented on Jan 16 13 at 11:41 pm FLAG FOR ABUSE

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