Nerve Dating Confessions

You live together and youre in love but you dont share money? And you expect him to pay you back? Sounds weird to me

you need to establish a mutual budget while each keeping your own seperate personal budget. you can share money and have personal accounts. but you guys need to talk about it.

Yea, discuss it and develope a plan and stick to it. Financial issues can be a big relationship killer.

Yeah @eh. We are in love. We live together. We split the bills and have seperate checking accounts. Sometimes I treat him to a date night. Sometimes he treats me. If I see that we are outta toilet paper, or milk, or beer -I buy it and don't ask him to split it with me or pay me back. I would appreciate; however, being paid back $50 that I had to give him because he doesn't have enough money to put gas in his car, buy weed or eat lunch till payday because he drank starbucks everyday and blew his money on whole foods salad bars and other shit he couldn't afford. Like i said, we make the same salary. i dont make more than him. i just want him to pull his weight! maybe, I'm an asshole for that but, I ain't rich....

girl (i'm assuming you're a girl), you are 100% correct for wanting him to pull his weight. if you are both working, there is absolutely no excuse. that is no way to treat a lady.. let's hope he's an exceptional lay at least.

then your issue is not the money, it's resentment. you don't like how he spends it. is gas something that you split? if it isn't and it's his own personal expense then just don't give him the 50$. or if you do, talk about it and expect him to return it. tell him it's a problem.

Well, the issue "op" reports is that they earn the same but he has a better lifestyle (starbucks, whole foods, ...) than "op" because "op" has a worse lifestyle than "op" earns to give money to him so he can have the better lifestyle. The underlying issue is that she needs him more than he needs her, at least sexually or emotionally. He likes her, but he knows that he can replace her more easily than she can replace him. She is handling this very poorly by sulking, because she is terrified of confronting him because after all she knows that she needs him than he needs her.

@941 you're way off. My point is that my bf doesn't know how to manage his money. He gets paid and goes to whole foods and Starbucks everyday till he runs out of cash and needs gas or whatever else. My Other point in saying that we both make the same, is that I don't run out at the $$ at end of the month and can put gas in my car. I shop at thrift stores tho and don't overspend. I love him. He's a great guy. I just wish he'd be a little more thoughtful with his money and budget a bit better so I don't have to go without eating lunch for a week cuz I gave him my last $20.

he is impulsive and i bet is very poor at math and cant grasp numbers. you need to budget your expenses with clear graphs in spreadsheets so he can see how the money is being sent.

Oh god @ww. Gimme a break. Jesus.

Stop giving him money and he will be forced to budget his better.

OP if you go without eating lunch for a week because he feels entitled to starbucks and wholefoods, obviously you need him far more than he needs you, and he knows it very well, deep inside or quite consciously. It is entirely possible that you love each other quite a lot on one level, and that on another level he knows how far you will go to keep him.

The point I am trying to make to OP is that "he" knows pretty well how to manage his money, which includes getting more from OP: he is the one who at the end of the month has gone to starbucks and wholefoods etc, and OP is the one who has run out of money and cannot buy lunch for a week, because she spent it on him.