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January 16, 3:23AM Somehow, I think piecing together that you feel the same instant connection should make me feel better, that there is in fact something rare and strange and powerful between us and I didn't imagine it. But it doesn't. I love her very much, and I don't ever want to hurt her. And I don't want to hurt you. So the best thing here is no thing. I have no answers, only the commitments I've made, and the feelings it turns out I share. CAN RELATE (3) CAN'T RELATE (2) FLAG FOR ABUSE
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Wow, must be nice. Decisions, decisions....

de commented on Jan 16 13 at 3:33 am FLAG FOR ABUSE

Its not nice at all to be married and meet someone who's presence cuts to the deepest parts of me. But it happens. People get married because it's the next step in their relationship, not always because they are with their soulmate. I knew my marriage wasn't based on that connection but didn't believe in it anyways, until I met someone I took one look at and felt like I had known before, or known forever. But I value what I have, even with that knowledge. Say what you want. Or just click 'can't relate'.

Op commented on Jan 16 13 at 4:40 am FLAG FOR ABUSE

I wish I could tell you about what you are doing to everyone in this situation by "staying the course." I wish I could show you my best friend's miserable marriage to a man who's bipolar and occasionally abusive, because she thought it would be proper to marry a rich doctor so that her children would have nice things and grow up in a respectable street. I wish I could show you the hundreds of years' worth of people who did the same thing you are doing now, because they HAD to, and ended up ruining their lives. It is honourable of you to want to honour the commitments you have made. But when the facts on the ground change, sometimes you need to re-evaluate...Please think about this. Or don't have children. Because your children will know something is wrong between you. And it will leave them unsettled about love for the rest of their lives.

wsh commented on Jan 16 13 at 10:29 am FLAG FOR ABUSE

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