Nerve Dating Confessions

You've made a huge (and false) generalization.

For real. People who lump people into huge groups and wrote them all off are really unattractive. Everyone's life is different. Respect that, even if you don't understand it. So it's better to be one of those serial monogamists who randomly breaks up with people to avoid cheating?

WOW- that's hilarious. You just said generalizations are unattractive, then just made one of your own. So, in other words, "people who make generalizations about groups I am a part of are unattractive, but I get to make generalizations about people who aren't like me, without considering myself to be unattractive." Sounds like myopic self-centeredness to me, which is the tell-tale sign of an abuser.

@wsh, count on good ol' 'wsh' to go pointing the finger and making assumptions. I stand by what I said, as it is NOT a generalization. Making blanket statements about people based on something like this is something I personally find unattractive. This sentence is empirical. It doesn't suggest they all engage in x y or z, or they all feel/look/smell a certain way, or that they treat people a certain way, or want certain things out of others. For the record, I have never cheated on anyone, so cool yr fucking jets. :)

You can't say something is empirical unless it involves the scientific method (hypothesis, experiment, results). And what you said about "serial monogamists" is an assumption on your part.

It depends how you define abuse, but it's definitely abusing their trust and abusing their love. That's enough abuse for me to agree. Cheaters only care about themselves; they aren't really capable of love.

Many women think that men who cheat women and them inflict sex on their victims are rapists, because those women would not assent to give sex to those men if they knew they had been cheated on. But the rape culture dominant in many countries means that the patriarchy have blocked all proposals to finally recognize that sex extorted by fraud by malicious, predatory men is indeed rape as many women feelings, and that those feelings are valid, not to be dismissed as irrelevant because expressed by "silly" women. But at least because of women's struggles some countries recognize that sex extorted by fraud is as much rape as that extorted by threats or violence. And many women can see that BM is right that even if there is no rape-sex after cheating, men who cheat women are still abusers who don't care about traumatizing their defenceless victims. But in many countries women have a right to self defense when they are subject to abuse and trauma, or at least that their reactions are excusable because of that abuse or trauma. In a famous case a woman who had felt abused and traumatized by her certainty that her predatory husband had cheated her, and cut off the tool of that abuse while he was sleeping, was widely admired for being strong and assertive. As the OP said, cheaters in those countries should be afraid!

@wsh in nerdy defense of wow, he is using the op's own logic of generalization against him. @clo wtf are you talking about