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January 15, 8:02AM My wife can't come with me. She gets very excited and close but can't come. Occasionally with oral but rarely. No problem with her vibe though. She had same issue with all prior lovers. Makes me want to cheat. Miss the excitement and intimacy of a woman coming CAN RELATE (4) CAN'T RELATE (7) FLAG FOR ABUSE
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Take her vibes and lock them away. Then talk to her, if you can get her close but not over there must be something you two can do together to get her there. I assume you have but if you haven't, incorporate the vibe in your sex life, use it (on the lowest setting) to make her cum, maybe it will teach you what it is she's looking for.

cvg commented on Jan 15 13 at 8:56 am FLAG FOR ABUSE

seriously? fuck you cvg. don't steal you wife's sex toys, that's weird and controlling. invest in a vibrating cock ring or a wevibe (a vibrator that goes inside of her along your cock, it's u-shaped and will also vibrate against her clitoris). why did you marry her if you knew she had problems cumming with you (and it bothered you)?

ddf commented on Jan 15 13 at 10:56 am FLAG FOR ABUSE

I can totally sympathize with you OP. Same situation here. We're about to go see a sex therapist about it. My recommendation is give her the chance to know her body and what it takes to get there with you. I cheated, and it's painful WHEN you get caught. I feel for you both.

yes commented on Jan 15 13 at 11:26 am FLAG FOR ABUSE

Most women fake it. Your odds aren't good that you're going to experience real orgasms from the person you're cheating with.

kk commented on Jan 15 13 at 11:29 am FLAG FOR ABUSE

After we have sex and she is dying to cum. I have to leave room so she can masturbate. Me bein there distracts her. She has seen sex therapists in past. Otherwise great relationship Been together many years and still have frequent sex but this really is a drag

Op commented on Jan 15 13 at 12:29 pm FLAG FOR ABUSE

That sucks. I think it would be better if you could be there for it no? Even if you just get to watch from across the room? Is there no way around that part? I cannot argue with sex therapists but I can understand the frustration there (but definitely not the cheating).

sfo commented on Jan 15 13 at 12:37 pm FLAG FOR ABUSE

Most women fake it... but almost no woman ever admits to it. In a way you have to be happy your wife is so honest and open about it. Try to make her cum once or twice before you guys actually have sex / intercourse. She should have an orgasm faster when it is her second or third. Good luck.

mi commented on Jan 15 13 at 12:44 pm FLAG FOR ABUSE

The whole bit about you not being in the room strikes me as psychological, not physical....

EMK commented on Jan 15 13 at 1:49 pm FLAG FOR ABUSE

Definitely psychological. Been together 20. Crazy thing is we have a lot of sex but it leaves me feeling empty. Not sure about her. She seems resigned to it.

Op commented on Jan 15 13 at 3:21 pm FLAG FOR ABUSE

That totally sucks. I'm so like your wife but I can come from oral nearly every time. Except I just started dating this guy who is just like, a sex god. He has a big dick that hits the right spots and his hands…omg. I was able to come having sex for the first time ever just a couple of weeks ago. I'm not sure how you handle her problem though…a very dark room and some kind of sex expert banging her? Not that you're not good, I'm sure you are.

sls commented on Jan 15 13 at 4:02 pm FLAG FOR ABUSE

This sounds exactly like my scenario. Uncanny.

yes commented on Jan 15 13 at 5:02 pm FLAG FOR ABUSE

She doesn't come from oral. I'm no sex god but pretty good and love oral. If she can find a sex god, more power to her. I'm game!

Op commented on Jan 15 13 at 5:06 pm FLAG FOR ABUSE

Has op suggested opening up the bedroom to some other people? or swinging?

sfo commented on Jan 15 13 at 6:38 pm FLAG FOR ABUSE

Watch her use her toys. Next time you have sex, when she's close, use the toy to make her cum. Associate orgasms from solo play with sex.

cb commented on Jan 15 13 at 6:44 pm FLAG FOR ABUSE

Happy to open it up. She doesn't like using toys with me. Likes to come alone. She won't consider opening marriage up or 3somes. Feels it will put relationship at risk

Op commented on Jan 15 13 at 7:51 pm FLAG FOR ABUSE

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