Nerve Dating Confessions
January 14, 7:37PM I would never manipulate the feelings of another person in order to feel better about myself. This is fundamentally against my character and anyone who really knows me would say the same thing--family, friends, even my ex-husband. Go ahead and ask them if you want. If anyone is projecting here, it's you. CAN RELATE (4) CAN'T RELATE (0) FLAG FOR ABUSE
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How many people know the REAL you, anyway? Meaning: the one you don't show the public in order to make yourself look like a refined gentleman. Meaning: the one you hide from everyone but could not manage to hide from me. I know a double life when I see one. It's just taken me a long time to figure out which was the real thing and which was the facade. Now I know.

op commented on Jan 14 13 at 7:38 pm FLAG FOR ABUSE

Like, who are you talking to? And why here if you're involved with this person?

Umm commented on Jan 14 13 at 7:43 pm FLAG FOR ABUSE

Because he won't talk to me anywhere else, and I have never contacted him anywhere else in order to respect his wishes.

op commented on Jan 14 13 at 7:45 pm FLAG FOR ABUSE

Or, to be more accurate, I have never contacted him DIRECTLY, in a traceable way, like in a way other people could see, like email, since he asked me not to. But we have had other ways of communicating. I've tried to ignore him but every time I do, he finds some way to draw me back in. Maybe because I keep believing he's sincere in saying he loves me, and that we're perfect for each other, but every time I get close to him, he reminds me in one way or another that this is just a game for him, and has only ever been. And then he turns around and calls ME a liar and a manipulator.

op commented on Jan 14 13 at 8:01 pm FLAG FOR ABUSE

OP - I posted that confession a little ways ago, but I'm quite certain I was never married.

six commented on Jan 14 13 at 8:04 pm FLAG FOR ABUSE

I feel your pain --but-- how do you know it's actually him? Like if there's one thing I know about this board it's that a LOT of us are going through and feeling the same shit. So he actually said to you I'm only going to write you here? and this is how to know it's me? Sounds like an impossible scenario from day one. Find a way out!!

@op commented on Jan 14 13 at 8:09 pm FLAG FOR ABUSE

pardon me but you sound sorta nutso. like, just fucking talk it out with this dude

woa commented on Jan 14 13 at 8:15 pm FLAG FOR ABUSE

woa- Don't you think I've tried that? He keeps dancing around the subject every time I try to talk to him about it in person.

op commented on Jan 14 13 at 9:41 pm FLAG FOR ABUSE

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