Nerve Dating Confessions

I have no idea how you could be friends with a gay person and still believe they shouldn't be able to get married, but if they invited you and you would like to attend, then I don't see why you shouldn't go. Maybe it will broaden your perspective and open your mind a little.

Do not go, unless you are willing to have an open mind, about it and maybe change your opinion. It is not only hypocritical but also detrimental to your friends to have bigot guests in attendance.

hypocrite...

It's actually not me in this situation. It's a friend who asked my opinion, and I thought I would pose it to the NDC community. I told her to go. She loves her friend, and she's a good person. Which is more than I can say for some of the judgmental trolls around here. So predictable.

I agree with ss...and hopefully it does open your mind.

I would say that if you oppose gay marriage, you don't love & care as much as you would like to imagine. Love is not just a subjective feeling; it is a principled way of behaving towards another person. If you oppose this person's marriage, that is an act of hatred, a denigration of their personhood. Whether it is motivated by malice or merely ignorance, is irrelevant. To coin a phrase: Hate is, as hate DOES. Thankfully, here in Washington State we have finally got past this bullshit, at least where the law is concerned.

So if I am opposed to adultery and my best friend is cheating on his wife, then it is an act of hate on my part and I hate and denigrate his personhood? I mean, he really cares about his mistress AND his wife and he treats them well. He's not faithful to his marriage but he can certainly love them both, correct? What about somebody living together and being sexually active before marriage? If I am opposed to that, does that mean it is an act of hate towards those who do live together? The op never said that they fought against gay marriage ormthat they feel that the two are bound for hell; only that they were personally opposed to it. I know people who are opposed to marriage in general; it isnt an act of hate or denigration towards me or my wife: they just dont believe that it's necessary or desirable to do. To call it hate is waaaay off the mark.

I think it would be great for your friend to go to the wedding of the person she cares about. (This is how change happens sometimes: one small step at a time.)

That was my thinking also @sg. I thought if she attends the wedding, she will have the opportunity to witness the event, and it may give her food for thought. And thank you @tru, for adding some sanity to this discussion. I can't believe that some of the posters here would use language such as "hate" and lacking an "open mind." Since when does someone who has a differing point of view from yours have these characteristics? Do you really think you will be able to persuade a person to your point of view by using such language? Doesn't anyone understand what the concept of "debate" is anymore? So to those people who would denigrate others, open YOUR mind. You clearly have a lot to learn.