Nerve Dating Confessions

Not success, persay. The rebound phenomenon is not a portent for a strong future.

Semi-success - he broke up with his g/f after several months of us being friends and (fairly obvious) mutual attraction. Bad thing was he asked me out the very next day, thankfully she was ok with it (although she would have been within her rights not to be, especially since I had met her several times and we had got on pretty well, it could have felt like a bit of a betrayal) and later I didn't feel too good about that, or the fact I said yes either. I think it would have been more respectful to her if we had waited a little bit longer, and indeed she could have gone nuts and probably ruined the relationship in the ways that jealous exes can. In the end we dated for about 7 months before breaking up for other reasons. So be careful.

This scenario is pretty common, short of internet dating it's not very common for two people to meet and have a spark when they both happen to be single at the same time. It can totally work, it just depends on the strength and quality of the relationship you form. I'd only say beware of people who just need to go from one relationship striaght to another because they can't be alone.

I met someone who I was so into that I broke up with my boyfriend of four years within the next month. (We hadn't had sex in a long time and it was obvious we weren't that into each other, but inertia and living together had prolonged the end.) Three days later, New Guy and I went on what became our first date. We've been together for almost three years now and it is an amazing relationship.

I've done this twice. once as the person in the relationship, and once as the other. both ended poorly. but then, the common element was me, sooo...