Nerve Dating Confessions

sounds pretty good. WHy is he your ex?

Cute @baldy instead of badly! And godess! Oops. @huh for a lot of reasons. We had a lot of chemistry both physically and emotionally but he never really gave himself to me like I did to him. He was often disrespectful, unbelieving in my dreams/goals and often brutishly egotistical. I was so consumed by the good it took me a long time to admit, and then, accept that he never valued me. We couldn't be together, not ever, not if I was going to be a healthy person. It's hard because I compare my connections with other men to him, I definitely know better now but that all-consuming, center of his world (when he so chose), debilitating touch/glance/sweetness is hard to move on from. I want that now that I know it's possible, but I want it with the right one. The question is, is that possible to have in one person?! The great guy and the game-changing attraction??? I haven't found it yet. Sorry for babbling...

Your expectations are perfecly reasonable and certainly possible OP.

I disagree. Chemistry like that is very rare. Too bad he was an a-hole, because it sounds like the connection was amazing.

Nope, you punched your ticket, and you're done. For life. ;-) No, silly, but maybe you shouldn't have *all* of that again, just the good stuff. You seem to be quite self-aware, and clear about the unhealthy parts of that relationship (and your ex). Be careful, you may have set yourself up for something even better. It may take some time, longer if you obsess about it.

Sounds like you need to ask more from yourself. If it was like that for him he would have tried harder. He was probably thinking about his ex that did that for him while you were together.