Nerve Dating Confessions

I always hear women saying bullshit like this. If he felt romantic love, why would he be happy to be your friend? You want all the benefits of dating with out actually dating. If a girl I wanted told me that she never felt more than friendship, I would be even less likely to want to be her friend. Friends works in 2 instances: if there was never a romantic connection (and both feel that way). Or if there was a relationship that ended, and now you just hang out.

The thing is he can't be friends with you, he viewed you as a potential love interest. There's no going back for him, if he stays friends with you it will hurt him. If you love him, let him go and come back in his own time if he was meant to.

He never saw me as a love interest. He saw me as a good fuck. He was a good fuck and we were friends for years before that. Suddenly he decided that because we both enjoyed the Alex I just have fallen in love with him and he ended the friendship. I was emotional about it bc I lost someone I'd been close to for so long, not because I wanted to be his gf. Our relationship ended and now I just wanna hang out!!

So....why is it that men can't be friends with women after a breakup, and yet women are the ones whose emotions are "crazy?" Just curious...

Hahaha, we both enjoyed the sex, not the Alex! Although I once had sex with an Alex and I enjoyed him too!

I've been in this position twice, with both similar and different results. When you have a longstanding friendship that goes sexual, then stops being sexual, you have a lot of the same baggage as ending a very long term relationship. even if you were only fucking for a month or two, the relationship includes the preceding friendship, and expecting the other person, man or woman, to necessarily be able to just go status quo ante is pretty naive. The first girl I havent talked to in 6 years. She expected me to just pretend that nothing had happened. That I *owed* her a return to exactly how we were, but without the sex. She wanted an everything-but-boyfriend. well, 6 months later that sortof imploded. The second girl, when we decided to stop, we both explicitly took some time off from each other, removed all the pressure, came back as friends naturally a few months later. We're actually better friends than we were before. So really, you should backoff. When a close friends sleep with each other more than a couple times, nobody is mistaking anything for romantic love. Really really good friends who sleep together is a descriptor that applies to all successful long-term relationships.