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January 7, 5:22PM You would think in a world full of rape, forced marriages and general brutality, women wouldn't complain about a guy being "too nice." Somehow I can't imagine earlier generations of women feeling the same.... I suspect they were just happy to find a guy who didn't want to hurt them. And I get that a lack of confidence is unattractive, and so is being wimpy (and therefore unable to make her feel safe) But c'mon! What's wrong with being a little "rom com" wooing? CAN RELATE (5) CAN'T RELATE (10) FLAG FOR ABUSE
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typo: doing a little rom com wooing

op commented on Jan 7 13 at 5:37 pm FLAG FOR ABUSE

Which statement do you agree more with: the world needs another rape, or the world needs another romantic comedy? ... hmm... I suppose ultimately I don't really care either way.

@op commented on Jan 7 13 at 5:54 pm FLAG FOR ABUSE

Because it smacks of fakery and insults our intelligence? This is called reality. No one would date the dipshit guy in a romantic comedy, and the dipshit girl doesn't exist. http://www.awardsdaily.com/blog/2012/02/16/oscar-and-the-bechdel-test/

ko commented on Jan 7 13 at 6:08 pm FLAG FOR ABUSE

Good God, I'm sick and tired of this BS. When girls say a guy is 'too nice' they don't really mean that the reason they won't date him is because he's nice, they mean that he is BORING, has no personality, sucks up to them, is clingy, calls too much and has a general desperate vibe around him. No women I know want to date douche bags. None of my female friends date douche bags. I've never douche bag (or if I ever did, I broke things off as soon as I realized he was a douche). The reason why women seem like they don't like being rom com wooed is because the wooing often tend to come from guys they are not attracted to, tpically because the more attractive guys know they're attractive and tend to not try as hard. That being said, I have been rom com wooed by great guys that I was attracted to as well.

AD commented on Jan 7 13 at 6:46 pm FLAG FOR ABUSE

Agree with AD, when they say "too nice", they do mean boring and empty. Doesn't even need to be clingy or desperate.

HL commented on Jan 7 13 at 8:10 pm FLAG FOR ABUSE

so you're one of those "nice guys", hey? i'd suggest you get over your sense of entitlement and stop being an embittered asshole in disguise.

rlh commented on Jan 7 13 at 9:13 pm FLAG FOR ABUSE

There is nothing wrong with a guy who is polite and respectful toward women. I have gotten over being accustomed to being abused and calling it "sexy" through years of therapy. Women who complain now of boring guys will complain of abusive guys later.

wsh commented on Jan 7 13 at 10:38 pm FLAG FOR ABUSE

So, let's analyze this. These "nice guys" expect that the ultimate chivalrous act of being friends with various women is not an end in itself, but rather will lead to them acquiring a girlfriend. They're frustrated because all this work they've been putting in actually talking and listening to their female friends hasn't paid off. Not very nice, is it?

sg commented on Jan 8 13 at 3:28 am FLAG FOR ABUSE

" I suspect they were just happy to find a guy who didn't want to hurt them." Bitches, amirite? never just happy with finding a guy who doesn't want to hurt them. Sooooo demanding.

jp commented on Jan 10 13 at 9:05 pm FLAG FOR ABUSE

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