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January 5, 10:46PM A lot of men have wanted to date me, be with me, just wanted me over the years. They've remained in my life as friends or in some capacity. As we've all gotten older I've watched them go with other women and get into happy, lasting relationships with them. Whereas I've almost been still as the world passes me by, if not already forgotten, to be forgotten some day. CAN RELATE (10) CAN'T RELATE (3) FLAG FOR ABUSE
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I was at a bbq, and there were 4 men from my past who had tried to be with me quite strongly, and that edge of flirtation and energy I have gotten so much over the years was gone. I don't know why it has slightly gotten to me. I think that perhaps by this age that if I ever meet someone I want they are likely not to want me in the way I got used to, or that they will be taken. Deep down that frightens me I suppose. That said, it has been so long since I have convincingly wanted somebody. But I did get them all in the end. Perhaps no more?

op commented on Jan 5 13 at 10:58 pm FLAG FOR ABUSE

Interesting.... why has it been so long since you wanted somebody?

hmm commented on Jan 6 13 at 1:13 am FLAG FOR ABUSE

Fear of intimacy. I've always had it, but it used to exist simultaneously alongside a fear of being alone too. I then had too many disappointments related to trying to be with people who were not right for me, so I taught myself to be at peace with being alone. The fear of intimacy was all that remained, and so my desire was slowly extinguished. At first I was happy about it, but now I'm not so sure. Perhaps what brought it on was seeing these men move to and evolve in their lives, whereas I have barely done that. If at all. I guess I want love like anybody, but I am so out of practice with any of these feelings. But I still fear intimacy. And in trying to be honest about my reasons about things I hope that I might try to change it. And try to change my life for the better. Of course there is more to it. It is never just one thing that you fix and it is all better.

op commented on Jan 6 13 at 8:51 am FLAG FOR ABUSE

I relate to everything you are saying....

at commented on Jan 6 13 at 8:25 pm FLAG FOR ABUSE

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