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January 4, 7:05PM My girlfriends sex drive has dramatically dropped off for the last 2 years. when we do have sex its still great but the frequency is just nowhere near where it was and I am always the one initiating and more often then not turned down. We have talked about it a lot and she knows its a issue but doesn't know why she isnt horny anymore. Has anyone experienced this before and had the sex drive return? she doesnt't even masturbate anymore. CAN RELATE (1) CAN'T RELATE (0) FLAG FOR ABUSE
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sometimes these things ebb and flow. Maybe the long term committment routine doesnt get her hot. Maybe you got fat. Maybe shes bored or depressed. Maybe you're bad at it. Ask her what turns her on. Discussing your lack of sex is very unlikely to create more sex

uno commented on Jan 4 13 at 7:18 pm FLAG FOR ABUSE

no, the sex drive never really recovers

sg commented on Jan 4 13 at 7:25 pm FLAG FOR ABUSE

After a woman "snags" a man, or thinks she owns him, the need for her to provide sex to the male diminishes. This often happens after a period of months following marriage. Women will manipulate and use sex to their advantage. Usually, the more money a man makes, the more receptive the woman is to intercourse. (case study "Female Sexual Desire" Harvard 1987)

bmf commented on Jan 4 13 at 8:13 pm FLAG FOR ABUSE

Is she on hormonal birth control? That kills sex drive for many women.

lc commented on Jan 4 13 at 8:35 pm FLAG FOR ABUSE

@lc no she isn't, @uno when we have talked we talk about what turns her on and i have made it clear that i would be open to whatever would get her excited again. she isnt interested in having sex with anyone she says. She just doesnt think about it. when we do have sex its still really good though, she always comes at the very least once.

BB commented on Jan 4 13 at 8:50 pm FLAG FOR ABUSE

It could be something emotional (that she's not sharing) or something physical. My sex drive totally disappeared for a while, and then I found out my thyroid was malfunctioning. As soon as I got on synthroid, whoosh, it came back.

fj commented on Jan 4 13 at 11:22 pm FLAG FOR ABUSE

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