Nerve Dating Confessions

How long are you supposed to wait then? Why don't we just all wait till after we get married 1st? Yeah that works really well.

that kind of thinking is so so stupid. And contributes to me not being able to get laid when I want, because women are worried about being perceived as "sluts." As a man I completely disagree. If she wants to fuck, why does she have to wait another 6 dates? So her value as a commodity is shown to be harder to obtain and therefore more valuable? And it's ok for men to fuck anything that move but not women? Why the double standard? And if she's going to hook up with the male version of the slut..... what's the problem? In summary, you are stupid. Personally I love when a girl wants to fuck. I encourage their sexuality, rather than punishing it (and then complaining that women don't put out). If I like fucking her once, why should I give it up? Then we know quickly whether we are sexually compatible, and we can continue to have more awesome sex without the awkward buildup of expectations.

Part of being grown up is having grown up sex, with the understanding of the consequences. Which we all have. The other part of that is treating the people we have sex with with dignity and respect and honesty.

It probably has more to do with who they pursue as opposed to if the put out right away. As a guy, I prefer at least a few dates before I sleep with a girl (I suppose that makes me lame and less of a man, but it is what it is). I prefer to get to know a girl, but a girl that wants to have sex on the first date does not change of my opinion of her. My best friend slept with his now wife on the first date, and they have a wonderful family and the strongest marriage. So it is by no means an indicator.

"Occasionally" "really makes you a cheap slut?" So we are supposed to be aware of every man's sexual history, as people who weren't there, and then be punished for it? What defines a "manwhore who fucks everything that moves" and how does crossing paths with one reflect on anyone's virtue? Op is judging women and men, here, on something that is completely subjective and he should mind his own sex life.

Op is probably a lapsed Catholic with a severe virgin/whore complex. Guys like him are a dime a dozen. They alternate between shaming and salivating over women who want to be sexual beings.

Let's start from the beginning. Why do women want a relationship, when sex is often good on its own? Because they think a relationship means that a man becomes her personal entertainer, and she can just enjoy his attentions, because she deserves them and is worth them. Now there are two likely responses by men to this: the large majority of men who are considered unattractive by women can feel tempted to pay the price of becoming a woman's personal entertainer when she is selling the sex they cannot easily get otherwise; but the small minority whom women find attractive can easily get sex without any conditions so they cannot imagine why they should become a woman's personal entertainer for nothing more than sex. Put another way, men don't do relationships just because a woman wants to be entertained; women have to MOTIVATE men to have relationships with them. Therefore if a woman wants a relationship from an unattractive man she has to grit her teeth and let him have sex with her every now and then; if she wants a relationship with an attractive man she has to offer a relationship to him, that is the entertainment has to be reciprocal, and given that attractive men are rare and get a lot of offers of sex from other women, she has to offer him a pretty good and loyal attitude if she wants him to prefer staying in a relationship with her to just playing around. Said yet another way: merely having a pussy does not entitle a woman to a one-sided, she gets all the benefits, sort of relationship; she has either to put out to an unattractive man, however disgusted she may be by sex with a loser, or offer reciprocal relationship benefits to an attractive man, and probably work harder on the relationship than he does, to keep him.

Note in my previous comment that I use "relationship" and "sex" not as something that two people do together in a reciprocal way, but in the usual sense used by so many women who confess here: sex is something that women give to men, and a relationship is something that women extract from men. Most men usually instead think that sex and relationships are reciprocal, and will naturally exchange sex for sex and relationship for relationship, except for the majority of men who are unattractive and who will unhappily work hard to give a relationship to a woman who is offering to let them fuck her if they give her that relationship.

I think the main problem with sleeping with someone too soon, has to do with intimacy. If you sleep together very early, there come to be all these intimacy issues on the part of both people that come crashing out. Fears...expectations..projections from the past...just a lot of emotional things...like a huge download of information. Sometimes the vastness of all those emotions can just shut everything down. More than making moral judgements on anybody who sleeps with someone very soon...its more about the realities of getting close to someone...It takes time...

The problem lies in whether or not you prefer anonymous hookups to intimate sex. But this is generally a male problem, not a female one. I have heard many men say they desperately need a stag party with strippers and escorts before getting married, even having the last secret anonymous sex before "tying the knot," because the idea of having sex with one woman for the rest of his life just sounds too dreary.

@no: There is no double standard. I was bashing both genders equally. Your comment just proved my point about men who see women as just a series of potential places to stick their dick. My bet is that you have never fucked a woman that wasn't already fall-down drunk and that a relationship, to you, is any girl that you can remember her name the next day.

I think the op needs to closely study this venn diagram. http://i2.wp.com/www.genusfolket.se/wp-content/uploads/2012/11/yourbusiness1.jpg?resize=604,272 and then stfu. Have a nice day.