Nerve Dating Confessions

This has happened to me. I really recommend that you STOP having sex, for at least a week, probably more though. Give your body time to heal. Give/receive oral instead. When you start to have sex again, use lubricant and go slow, even if you would like it harder. Also, stop desperately chasing orgasms. I bet when you first got together with your partner, you barely thought about that aspect of sex. Now the more you think about it the harder it is to achieve (well...if you're anything like me). All couples go through ups and downs. I think the best thing to do is relax, back off, and keep communicating with your partner. Let them know they aren't doing anything wrong, but you need a little time.

Yes nan is giving you good advice. I had the same experience.

The wife had that happen to her when we were having sex once a week, if that. Her gyn recommended taking ibuprofen a bit before having sex. It worked for the most part, not 100%, but bearable.

thanks nan. i'll try, i'm really terrible at avoiding sex bc i love it so much. we did go without for a bit more than a week and i don't know that it helped as for the depserately chasing orgasms -- you're right! i really don't think i ever craved them in the beginning, I was definitely more connected and in the moment and now all i'm thinking is what to do and how to move to get an orgasm. clearly i need to relax, i'm always telling him that just because i didn't orgasm it doesn't mean i didn't enjoy him or the sex. i need to take my own advice! i'm still going to see a doctor and i'd like him to as well in case we're passing some germ back and forth.... as for "RM" that sounds like an inconsiderate doctor. that's not a solution to your wife's problem at all and i hope she found a new doctor with more worthwhile advice or she has gotten through it on her own - i imagine ibuprofen would only make me less aware of the pain, which is always bad advice.