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December 30, 9:31PM We talk about being together forever, but we still hold back so much of ourselves. Why can't either of us admit that we are just conveniently using each other? CAN RELATE (8) CAN'T RELATE (2) FLAG FOR ABUSE
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because we dont want to hurt each other

hg commented on Dec 30 12 at 9:35 pm FLAG FOR ABUSE

But aren't we just making the eventual heartbreak even greater?

op commented on Dec 30 12 at 9:42 pm FLAG FOR ABUSE

sadly yes but no one wants to be the bad guy.

hg commented on Dec 30 12 at 9:46 pm FLAG FOR ABUSE

So what do we do about it? Yes, there is love there, but there is also an undercurrent of disrespect because of the use.

op commented on Dec 30 12 at 9:48 pm FLAG FOR ABUSE

@op: First tell her how you feel and try figure out what's really going on. Then, if that doesn't work or lead to a place where the relationship might work, you bite the bullet and be the bad guy and tell him/her that you think it's time you both moved on. It sucks and it hurts but it is what it is.

ght commented on Dec 30 12 at 9:59 pm FLAG FOR ABUSE

I know. But I keep hoping that we will open up and that it will work. Neither one of us wants to be the bad guy, but neither one of us has the courage to risk putting it all out there and it not being reciprocated.

op commented on Dec 30 12 at 10:04 pm FLAG FOR ABUSE

And not having your feelings reciprocated is a perfectly valid fear. However, one of you has to take the first step and if your partner isn't going to do it then you have to because otherwise there is no place to go but further down a road that doesn't lead anywhere good.

ght commented on Dec 30 12 at 10:16 pm FLAG FOR ABUSE

I know. Shit.

op commented on Dec 30 12 at 10:22 pm FLAG FOR ABUSE

Good luck. I hope it works out, one way or the other.

ght commented on Dec 30 12 at 10:27 pm FLAG FOR ABUSE

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