Nerve Dating Confessions

Yes, but I need to be comfortable with the person. If I don't trust them yet, I hold back.

I was married young. Too young, so it didn't work out. He was also the first man I slept with. In that time we had a lot of great, experimental sex and in a way a safe space to hone our skills. After we split up and I finally got back out there I was sure I would be average in bed at best. Pretty much all the men were taken aback told me I was the best they'd ever had (not all) and some reminded me for years after that I am really great in bed. I accepted after a time that either they are very nice, they want to bed me again or I know what I'm doing. The only thing I can put it down to is maybe having an open mind, an energetic presence, a sense of experimentation and fun, a great enjoyment in the act. Possibly most importantly I am giving, and I explore my partner in many different ways very slightly, test their reactions and move forward to what they respond well to, getting stronger as their reactions get stronger. I'm usually pretty good at uncovering preferences and kinks pretty quickly. I think everybody, especially those that are unsure about it really want that. Hell I do. I nearly always have to ask for what I want, and it is such a treat and relief having someone proceed as if they know you, and somehow they do. You can just let go and enjoy.

For the second post in a row, @ll - You rock.

I agree with a lot of what ll says. I think I'm pretty good, maybe not excellent. I think what makes me.good is enthusiasm. I want my man to know how much I want him, and I respond to.his touches with sounds of pleasure, or smiles, etc. I also think a sense of humor is important. if a poition is awkward, and we're having a little trouble, we laugh together, and its just as sexy. I swallow, for the man I love, because I think it completes the experience for him, and myself, and makes him feel accepted. I am not afraid of body fluids. I dont consiser our bodies gross or shameful. When I ride him I really own it, taking my pleasure, and giving him a show. :)