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May 1, 6:01PM So I just found out that I have cancer. I want him to be my last hurrah before I go into treatment. Now how would I go about telling him this? Yes, I have slept with him in the past, just not for a while. He is who I would feel most comfortable with. Is this all too morbid? I just know that the next, up to a year, is gonna be hell. It would be nice to feel something wonderful before it all happens. CAN RELATE (2) CAN'T RELATE (0) FLAG FOR ABUSE
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just seduce him and sleep with him. don't tell him a damned thing - just enjoy!

cin commented on May 1 12 at 6:11 pm FLAG FOR ABUSE

Not too morbid, but terribly demeaning to him. You're completely and totally using him; treating him as a piece of meat and not a person with feelings. If you do this and you have a conscience, you will feel worse for having done it. If you have a conscience.

uhm commented on May 1 12 at 6:39 pm FLAG FOR ABUSE

@uhm... I understand where you are coming from... unfortunately there is much more to this story than can just be put here. however, he never really had feelings for me anyways... none that he would admit to at least. so why would it hurt him now? all he ever wanted was sex from me in the past.

op commented on May 1 12 at 7:43 pm FLAG FOR ABUSE

Tell him the truth, tell him you are scared and worried about the coming year, and you feel comfortable with him and would like a fling before everything gets too serious. He either will or he won't, just be honest with him. You aren't using him, uhm is way off base.

@op commented on May 1 12 at 7:47 pm FLAG FOR ABUSE

I forgot to say; I wish you a speedy recovery and long life of sunny days, op. You'll be ok, just keep telling yourself that. Good Luck!

@op commented on May 1 12 at 8:01 pm FLAG FOR ABUSE

uhm is being way too harsh. That's bullshit. I've gone through similar situations, with the threat of death looming overhead. Cancer is scary. You should have a fantastic day with him, he doesn't exactly have to know. You should tell him at some point, but don't let that loom over the events.

SB commented on May 1 12 at 8:33 pm FLAG FOR ABUSE

Not too harsh. The guy is a human being, and he should know. Sleeping with him just to have enjoyable sex but not telling him about your circumstance is cruel to him. I think @op had a good comment. Tell him the truth. He deserves to know. Having cancer doesn't mean you get to forget to act like a human being.

uhm commented on May 1 12 at 9:32 pm FLAG FOR ABUSE

Not telling him was never my plan. If this is going to happen he will know the whole truth... Besides, I have a surgery scar that would raise a few questions anyways.

Op commented on May 1 12 at 10:01 pm FLAG FOR ABUSE

Telling your own self this is a last hurrah, is surrendering to the fears of cancer. Make it your intention that he's going to be the FIRST one you sleep with, after the cancer has left your body. Then keep that thought in your body every day during what's to come. Live it in your mind all the time.

Tao commented on May 1 12 at 10:15 pm FLAG FOR ABUSE

I like Tao's attitude!!!

uhm commented on May 2 12 at 12:37 pm FLAG FOR ABUSE

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