Nerve Dating Confessions

I'm 22. 26 is as old as I go. Anything more than 4 or 5 years difference feels icky to me.

20 x 2 = 40. 40 - 7 = 33. 29/2 - 14.5. 14.5 + 7 = 21.5 Meh... Close enough.

Go out see how things work out. sometimes age is literally just a number. You may be as mature and smart as he is, or he may be as mature and smart as you. Just give it a try, the worst that can happen is that it not work.

I think it depends how You feel... in number terms it isn't much but maturity at that point is not a flat line, it's a steep curve, and sometimes, a couple of years do matter.

Don't let the age thing bother you. It's a date, not a marriage. Be more concerned that you think you are more mature than guys your age.

If the age is an issue to YOU then it might be a problem, but otherwise there's nothing to worry about. Its not about how old you are its how good you are together.

Everyone judges age differently. Ignore them all. Only opinions that matter are yours and his.

There's a girl in my quad that is 21 and her boyfriend is 30. Its nice to say that age doesn't matter and all that. Still there's something weird about a guy that age dating someone that much younger than him. What do you talk about? What do you have in common? To me it's strange.

Who cares how strange it is to you. THEY know if they have stuff in common and to talk about and if they're dating I'm guessing they do. Judgmental people always have bad judgment.

Curious as to what you'd all be saying if the guy were the younger one

It's certainly possible that the difference in age and life perspective will make for incompatibility, but I don't see why it has to be "icky" or "strange." You never know. I say give it a shot.

@424 I think its pretty widely accepted that as a general rule women mature emotionally earlier than men and most 20 year old dudes are just kids who can grow facial hair so its a totally different scenario.

Men with more experience, security and money a bad thing? Go for it!

If you're asking about what is socially acceptable or not then my answer is he's too old. I'd be wondering why he isn't dating women closer to his age. I'd go out with him for the experience but wouldn't date him seriously.

OK but suppose the 20 yr old guy was really mature?

Nothing wrong with it either way round. Both are adults able to tell if they're compatible or not. My Dad is 10 years younger than my Mom, they met when he was 19 and have been married 20 years next month.

Too old. Find yourself a 25 yr old if you want to date.older.

As a late 20's woman dating late teens-early twenties men - it's socially awkward dating someone who was in elementary school when I graduated high school. You don't have enough overlapping adult experiences to make a good connection.

@KLM It's "strange" and "icky" because he's an adult and she's not.

9 years is a workable age difference. It just depends what you're looking for. What do like to do for fun? What do both of you want for your future? If he's ready to start a family and you're not, it could be a problem. Or if you like to go out a lot and he doesn't. It's more about compatibility and lifestyle.

This is HILarious. Has noone else noticed this is like the 10th 'She's 20 he's 29 OMG' confession in the past week or two? Always specific with the ages and genders never any other age gap. And they always get a lot of comments despite being basically uncontroversial by NDC standards and most of the negative ones are written in basically the same voice. Someones got an ax to grind: my guess, old ex dumped for a younger model trying to get some backup for her outrage