Nerve Dating Confessions

Can you move to where your partner lives and afford your own place? Or find some roommates or a sublet in the same city? Don't move in together if you aren't sure you are ready. That's a huge commitment.

Thanks for the feedback, AG! Yes I can afford those options.

You sound like an eminently sensible person. No shame in being tired of the distance-- so go on and move. Make sure you've savings, that you'll have a regular source of income lined up, do your research on neighborhood/roomies/etc., and get going! I agree with ag about moving in-- there's always the chance, however slight, of not liking your new locale. Good luck.

Thank you for the encouragement, XER!

You don't know if you're ready to live with/move-in with your partner? I'm a bit of a word-junkie, so your use of the word "partner" caught my eye. Being a gay man, i use the word "partner" to describe the person with whom i've made a 100% commitment to. That's my definition. What's yours? How long have you been "partners/boyfriends/girlfriends?" Is there a fear of commitment? Fear that moving in together will change the LTR for the worse? Are you struggling with the "i want my cake and eat it too" syndrome? (ie: you love your free and independent lifestyle, with a "partner" who lives in a different city, you have wonderful times - and sex - when your'e together but you also do enjoy the idea that you're going to pack up and go home at the end of the weekend but now you're getting a bit road-weary?) Well, based on your post, the fact that you don't KNOW if you want to live together IS your answer. I'm guessing you're not ready to make that jump but your PARTNER DOES want to.....be honest with yourself AND him.

try taking a long vacation there, like a month, and see how much you like it.