Nerve Dating Confessions

As a guy whose wife is like this... Yes. A friend once described it as being that guys like to hunt, not be feed (like a T Rex). It's crude, but it's true. It's one reason other women feel some enticing: there is the thrill of the seduction and hunt. He has to apply his skills and charm to win you over; that's a high in and of itself, before the sex comes in. Also, do an honest check to make sure you are hunt-able; people change over time, as do their tastes. This is not a criticism (I have no idea who you are or what you look like), but check in with what your husband actually wants, not what you think he wants (as a married person, it's easy to get that confused). Maybe he runs hot and cold because of things your not awa of, or that weren't a factor before. And last but not least, remember that people, even men, are complex animals: this might not have to do with you at all. Stress from work, or even proccupation with hobbies can get in the way. Hat might hurt to think that his sports or games might get in the way of your sexy time, but remember that most guys are very task oriented; they tend to fixate on something until its over.

I agree with @Jnh, but as a sexual guy in a long-term relationship with someone who is definitely NOT dtf 24/7, hearing about a woman who is makes me a little jealous. That's coming from someone who still does have to work at it if I want to get some. Of course, nothing does it for me like knowing she wants it. Honestly, I kind of shut down sexually if I think she's not into it.

Once you start playing games, it gets easier and easier and then you forget what reality is. Never try to fuck with your man's head.

All as I suspected in the first two comments. It's just kinda hard to play hard to get when you're married and he KNOWS you want it. But I do get how that is sometimes appealing. To the last comment, ideally I would not ever play games. But this tension might he necessary to really fuel his desire.

OP- As Jnh said, you could ask your husband, since he's the ultimate authority on this subject. If you are treating him like an on-demand fucking machine, rather than a human being with emotions, etc., he's going to sense that, and as rbw said, may shut down as a result. Sexually, and emotionally. In other words, don't take it for granted that because he's a man, that he wants to have sex in any and every spare moment. A little bit of chase is okay with me, but playing games is one of the quickest ways I know to shut down my libido. OTOH, if the game is discussed and agreed to in advance...Get a little creative, make it special. Maybe you need to "earn", in a playful way, your spontaneous schtuppings. If you're really good, maybe you accumulate enough points for a 3 or 4-some. That oughta keep you happy for a few days. ;-)

Find a better way to fuel his desire than withholding sex. No good can ever come from withholding sex from your husband as a way to 'train' him to better satisfy your ideal of how he should act. You don't need to buidl unecessary tension in your marriage. It could also backfire - no man likes to have games played on him or have sex withheld to 'teach him a lesson'. Ever thought of talking to him directly about it?

There is a saying- and it is true- that hunger makes the best sauce. It's not playing games on him when you play games WITH him- ya dig?