Nerve Dating Confessions

I think the problem with most guys under 25 is that many are still in that college just want to have fun phase. Partying and random hookups still seem fun. Unlike most guys under 25, I've already started into my career field and am looking for someone to share my future with. Don't give up hope! There are some sensible guys out there, you just gotta look hard

It's really frustrating because I too understand the desire to not be "tied down" I just hate that its this completely polar thing - everyone is either looking for a person they can screw a few times without exclusivity OR the person they are going to marry/move in with/date for years. I feel like there are all these girls who want to have something fun and sexually safe for a few months and on a "we'll see what happens" basis but no guys

Over 25 isn't exactly easy either. It's pretty much never easy, but sometimes things work out and along the way, just try to have fun! Good luck! You'll find him!

Hang in there, OP. You sound like you own some healthy and sane attitudes. I don't see life holding out on the owner of such for too long. But life is (also) about testing us via wants/desires, so suck it up and know that sometimes it's not a matter of kissing a lot of frogs before finding your potential prince, sometimes its about coming across a ton of toads who simply don't even have the appeal of a frog, and holding your nerve. Then before you know it you might just find your first frog turns out to really be a prince.

If they are into monogamous dating that by itself means that they are not attractive to people like you. If they are out of your league which is what you mean by attractive, you would consider them losers and thus unattractive if they were exclusive with someone below their league like yourself.

The comment by 941 is spot on.

I just meant that men pre-labeled as "attractive" from my experience tend to try to "spread their seed' simply because they can. They seem to see sexual interactions as more purely carnal and therefore can create an existence that allows them to constantly seek new partners without any concern over the other person's feelings. I was just wondering if some such men who fit the description of objectively "hot" DO live differently. I just need some proof that the stereotype is just a stereotype. I can't be attracted to someone I don't personally find attractive (which is a label applied liberally by me and a matter of taste). So please don't even try to insinuate I'm more "shallow" than average.

Your experience is very limited and not representative of all mankind. I am a man, but I an close friends with a lot of men in the age group that do not fit your stereotype. You seem to be very young and don't have a lot of experience dating, or interacting with a lot of men. You may not be more shallow than average, but you are limiting yourself unecessarily. If you interact with men based on your stereotype, you will be biased and won't be giving the 'nice' ones a real chance to create a relationship. If you go into a relationship expecting that the man needs to 'prove' that he doesn't fit the stereotype, you're also not giving them a real chance. You also have to look for these men in places other than bars on Friday and Saturday nights.

@op your comment has changed your story a bit. You are now asking two different questions: Why are hot guys not monogamous with *me*? Are hot guys who can easily screw around for fun ever going to become monogamous? Now, for the first question, see my reply above. For the second question, most hot guys eventually become monogamous, when they find some girl who can offer them something worth being monogamous for, for example children.

ended up dating several 22 and 23 year olds...problems with all of them...now dating a 25 year old...works like a charm!